5 Reasons I Would Delete Facebook (and the one reason I haven’t)

Social media has become an essential in our lives.  Almost everyone has some sort of social meda profile, whether it’s Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram or a blog (I happen to have all listed).  It’s the only way we connect with each other these days.  Seldom do we actually call people or make weekly meet-ups a thing.

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Sometimes I consider deleting my Facebook account for a few good reasons.  I think we all go through this “wanting to delete our profile” mindset more than once, and I’m sure we all want to do it for similar reasons.

5 Reasons I Would Delete Facebook

1.) Drama.  Ugh!  I swear some people have nothing better to do than to pick on others for the most idiotic reasons, or to butt into other peoples’ lives.  I sometimes get fired up when I see something and get ready to make a comment, then I have to sit back, take a breath and remind myself it’s not worth starting a fight over.  This is why I tend to post/repost things about books or cats.

2.) Wast of time.  There are times when I’ll spend so much time just scrolling through my feed and it disgusts me.  I could write two week’s worth of blog posts or read three and half books with the time I waste on Facebook each week.

3.) Facebook, or it didn’t happen.  We live in the mindset where we have to constantly take pictures and update our statuses so people can see what we’re doing all the time.  Instead of just enjoying the concert we’re at, we’re recording a low-quality video to post later so people know we were there.  Yeah, it’s nice to take pictures and video to share, but sometimes you need to put the phone down and enjoy life.

4.) Stress.  Aside from drama, there is unecessary stress added when you post something on Facebook and keep going back to see how many likes and comments you got.  If you got a few, great!  But if you didn’t, you start wondering why no one is seeing your post or liking it.  Since when did a click of a mouse determine our self-worth?  And don’t get me started on the game requests.

5.) Creepy friend requests.  Okay, first of all, if I get a friend request from someone and I have no friends in common with them there is no way I’m going to accept it.  I block that sucker right off the bat!  Then there are the people who have the mindset of “I have two friends the same as this person, so I’ll add them.”  Again, no.  If I don’t know you personally from somewhere, I’m not adding you… thanks for playing.

The Reason I Keep Facebook

Networking.  The main reason I’ll keep Facebook as long as its relevant is for networking purposes.  As a blogger, videographer and amateur photographer, Facebook is a good way to share my content with my family and friends… who might end up sharing it with their family and friends.  It’s also a good way for people to sell things or let people know they’re giving away kittens or puppies.  Facebook, despite its many flaws and frustrations, is a good way to connect with people when you really try.

Or to just share adorable kitten videos.

Are there times you want to delete Facebook or any other social media profiles?

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Goodbyes Are Hard

Today I say goodbye to someone who might’ve been short, but held a big place in my heart.

Last Sunday, September 11th, my grandma left this world – called home by God to be with Him and all of her family that went before her.  It was also her 80th birthday.

I’ve lost people before over the years, but this one is hitting the hardest.  Not because she was my last living grandparent, but she was the grandparent I had the closest relationship with.  Of course I loved my Nanni and Poppy just as much, I just didn’t get to see them as often and they also were called home to God more than a few years ago.

It wasn’t a surprise when she passed, we knew it was coming sometime soon..  She had been diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer almost two years ago and her health had drastically declined over the past few weeks… especially the week I was in Vermont.  But even though we knew it would happen soon, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt as much.

Work has been a good distraction from all of this.  I’m not constantly consumed with thinking of my grandma and how I won’t be talking to her anymore on my morning walks or seeing her, but I can’t say that I haven’t been in a daze this past week.  I’m functioning on autopilot most of the day and not really thinking much about anything.  Most of the time it doesn’t even feel like it really happened… then I remember it did and lose it.

Another way I’m trying to get through this is by thinking that she’s not suffering anymore.  It’s selfish to want her here if she’s going to be in pain and sick.  It just sucks that she couldn’t still be here with her full health.

I’m very thankful for the kind words I’ve received from family, friends and coworkers over the past week, as well as the prayers for comfort.

So I’m going to wrap this up (because I’m a wreck right now writing this).

I already miss you a lot Gramma, but I know you’re with the Lord and your family, and most of all you’re not suffering anymore.  I’m only going to say goodbye for now, because I will see you again someday in Heaven.  I love you.

– Tabitha (Jellybean)

Vermont’s “Largest” Candy Store?

My mom and I were recently in Vermont for the third year in a row and we were very much looking forward to it.  We got off to a not-so-great start and there were a few bumps during our stay, but the trip wasn’t a complete bust.  We still enjoyed ourselves and getting away from home for a few days.

Aside from trying the amazing Cold Hollow Cider Mill in Waterbury, we decided this year we would travel from our comfy room in Stowe to see Vermont’s largest candy store – Middlebury Sweets.  It was about an hour and a half from where we were staying, but hey… who doesn’t love a large candy store filled with treats you might not be able to find anywhere else?

That store?  Not very big.

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We traveled all that way for a small, hole-in-the-wall candy store that wasn’t much bigger than a candy store in a mall.  Now that I’m thinking about it, it was about the size of the room we stayed in at our resort.  Not to mention that it doubled as a U-Haul rental place, so you have to wait for the person to finish with that before they ring you up.

We still got a decent haul of candy and they did have a lot to choose from as far as colors of M&M’s and different flavors of Jelly Belly’s, I just feel that it wasn’t worth going so far out of our way for it.  If we had been passing through Middlebury, it would’ve been a different story.

I hate to complain, but due to the fact that we used so much gas and wasted all that time traveling to Vermont’s “largest” candy store just upsets me.  I’m not saying it’s not Vermont’s largest candy store – it very well may be – but if they’re going to advertise it as being this great place to visit, please make sure it’s worth the time to go there.

And it wasn’t.

Have you ever been disappointed due to false advertising?

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Book Journaling Kit!

Ever since making my blog post planner printable and the mini-kit I have for sale on Etsy, I’ve been itching to make more printables.  It’s taken me 8 months to do it, but I did!

Ladies and gentlemen, may I present… the Book Journaling Kit!

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With the sheets I made for this kit, you can keep track of the books you want to read, make notes as you’re reading (if you’re a reviewer or just like to keep track of your thoughts), write down memorable quotes and keep track of who you’re lending books to.

I originally wanted to include some type of Monthly Reading Plan, but since I never end up going with my own reading plans, I can only assume that plenty of other people don’t either.  It’s hard when you’re constantly discovering new books to stick to a plan, unless it’s a kind of plan that keeps track of how much you’re reading each day/week.

Dang, that might be an idea for later.

Anyway, this is now available on my Etsy shop along with the Blog Planning Mini-Kit.  I hope that anyone who gets it will enjoy using it!  I can’t wait to try it out myself!

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The Case for Not Finishing a Book

Time is a precious thing.  You’re only allowed so much of it and there are no do-overs.  No matter how much we fantasize about time travel, the fact is… it’s never going to happen.

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With this is mind, I’m making a point to no longer waste my time on things I am not enjoying.  If I’m reading a book and I’m just not getting into it, then I’m not going to continue reading it for however many hours only to hate the book in the end.  I’ve finished books that I didn’t enjoy and it hurts me to think of the time I wasted reading those books.  My mom put it perfectly the other day by saying that if it feels like a chore to keep reading the book, then don’t.  That’s the same reason students don’t do their reading assignments – because it’s a chore.

Within the past year there have only been two books that I’ve given up on.  I don’t think that’s bad at all.  In fact, from what I can remember, there has only been one other book that I gave up on because I didn’t like how it was formatted and nothing made sense.  There may have been more, but at this time I only remember the three.

The most recent of these books was A Court of Thorns and Roses by Sarah J. Maas.  Some of you are probably going to be upset, but I just didn’t like it after the first few chapters and I wasn’t going to waste a second more of my life reading it.  There were parts of the narration I didn’t like and the pacing was very slow.  Plus, it’s a fantasy novel and with the exception of Harry Potter, I don’t usually read fantasy.

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But I think I deserve a pat on the shoulder for trying to expand my horizons.  This was just not the book for it.

Part of me gets upset when I decide to give up on a book.  Obviously there was something in the synopsis that sparked my interest, so why didn’t the actual book?  I can’t answer that, but at least I know I won’t be disgusted with myself after reading an entire book that I didn’t enjoy and realize how much time I wasted reading it.

I like to follow the unofficial ‘Rule of Fifty’ – where you give a book at least 50 pages before you decide to continue with it or not.  I’d say about 97% of the time I don’t even need to think about it.  However, if a book isn’t catching me right away, I’ll tell myself to give it until page 50 before deciding to drop it or not, sometimes a little more than that depending on the size of the book.  Most of the time though, the story will pick up by then and before I know it I’ve finished it.  It’s not very often where I actually decide to stop reading a book after page fifty.

“If it feels like a chore to read it, then don’t.  It will ruin reading for you.” – my mom

Of course, there is the rare case where I stop reading a book due to a lack of interest then some years later pick it back up again and actually finish it.  I have probably only done this once, maybe twice, in my lifetime.  There is a possibility it will happen again, but I make no promises.

After all, there are so many books I still have to read and so little time to read them.

Do you finish a book you’re not into? Or do you power through it like a madman/woman?

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I Miss School (Sort of)

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I know, I know.  You think I’m crazy.  Heck, I think I’m crazy at times, but it’s true.  I miss being in school and most things about it.  I’ve been out of school for just over a year now, and it’s still something I have to wrap my brain around.

Which is partially why I’m looking into graduate school.

Of course, that’s not the only reason.  I’m looking into graduate school because I want to pursue a Master in Library Science degree.  For a while I sort of pushed my library dream aside in favor of video production.  It’s not that I’m not into video production anymore, I would love to work in a studio or freelance, but I’ve always loved libraries and their place in our society.  I’ve wanted to work in one since I was in high school… and now I do.

But I want to take it just a little further.

It will still be at least another year or so before I’m actually back in school.  After all, I need to research what school I want to attend for this degree and that’s what I’ve been doing the past few weeks.  But as we near the end of August I’m seeing all the back to school sales and I wish I was attending now.

I think aside from being in the classroom, what I miss most is back to school shopping.  Even if I didn’t need new supplies, I got them anyway.  School and office supplies have always been a weakness for me, as it is for a few other people I know.  In fact, I just bought a few notebooks because they were only 50¢ at Walmart.

It’s a sickness, honestly.

Even when I do get back to school for my Master’s, I’ll still miss the school environment as I’ll most likely be pursuing the degree online.  There are no local programs for me to go back for the MLS degree in person, so unless I move out-of-state my only choice is online school.  It’s not a bad option though, I actually enjoyed my year of online school through Liberty University back in 2011 to finish my Associate’s degree.

Now I don’t love everything about school.  What I’m not looking forward to about going back are the tests.  I’ve never been a great test-taker.  While I have gotten my fair share of A’s, I have often made mistakes that could’ve been avoided.  Also, the cost of textbooks.  Nothing irritates me more than spending hundreds of dollars on a textbook only to find out that we didn’t even need it in the first place.

Still, I think the pros far outweigh the cons of going back to school.  After all, I’ll be able to further my career, learning more each day and after it’s all done I’ll have achieved something that I know wasn’t an easy thing to do.

I’m a little terrified thinking about going on to graduate school, but at the same time I’m excited to go for something that I enjoy and would really help me in my career.

Are you excited for a new school year?  If you’re not in school, do you miss it?

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Getting My Groove Back

I know I haven’t been as active here on the diaries this summer.  To be blunt, I’ve just been in a slump.  I want to write, but I either don’t have time to just sit and write or when I do have time, I just don’t feel like it.

That has to change.

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I miss connecting with my fellow bloggers and readers out there.  I miss writing about a cool event that happened in my life or something I’m going through, like this blogging slump, and someone out there can say, “Hey, I’ve been there.  You’re not alone.”

Every blogger goes through a slump at some point.  It might not be natural if we didn’t. Sometimes we need a kick in the pants to get us started up again.  I’m trying to do it myself, but I’m admitting that I might need some help.  I’ve been looking up topics that I can cover to get myself back into writing, but I will also take reader suggestions.  So anyone who has a post idea, feel free to submit it into the comments.

Also, I would love to do a Q&A post in the future!  If you have any questions for me, you can leave those in the comments as well or you can even submit them through email (which you can find on my contact page).

Wish me luck on getting my blogging groove back!

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Unexpected Blessing

This past Monday I was slapped in the face… with a job.

I didn’t fill out an application nor did I go in for an interview.  I was simply asked if I could stop by the library and was offered a job that had opened up that morning.

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I can’t even begin to explain how happy and excited I am about this new opportunity in my life.  I’ve been trying for the past year to get a job in the library field, applying as a library assistant to any jobs that opened up in my area.  Obviously, I didn’t get any of those jobs.

There’s no way that this wasn’t a huge blessing from God because I mean, the position had just become vacant that morning and for me to be the first person the library director thought of to offer the job to…?  And, come on, a library job?  Yeah, this job is definitely a gift from God.

So today is my first day.  Of course I’m both excited and nervous… but really more excited.  This is what I’ve wanted since high school (though I may have gotten off track at some point during college).  I’m very excited to have a job that I’m going to be passionate about and be able to learn from and work with great people.

And hello?  I’m going to be around books!

How great is that?

Again, I’m very grateful for this new job and opportunity to be in a field I’ve dreamed of.  It goes to show that even when it’s hard to keep believing that God has something good planned for you, you have to keep believing because God will always come through.

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July Playlist

It’s been a while since I’ve shared a monthly playlist.  The reason I stopped was because a lot of the songs would’ve been repeats.  But this summer has brought some new songs into my life, as well as reintroducing old ones that I haven’t listened to in a while.

So here are some of the songs I’ve been playing frequently.

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Powerless – Alyson Stoner

This song is from the movie Summer Forever, which is available for download on iTunes, Amazon, etc.  While all the songs in this movie are great, this one is by far the best.  The full video that I linked to is also great and I was disappointed they cut out a chunk of it in the movie.  I know the song is a bit of a downer, but you can’t help but admit that it’s the best one from the movie (or that might just be me).

I Want Crazy – Hunter Hayes

This is one that I’ve loved since it was released.  It’s a fun song that expresses a truth about relationships… easy is okay, but crazy is more enjoyable.  And it doesn’t have to be just for romantic relationships.  Crazy friendships are fun too!

Bye Bye Bye/I Want It That Way – Glee Cast

I can’t even tell you how pumped I was when Glee finally covered Nsync and Backstreet Boys.  This is probably the best mash-up they ever did!  I only wish they had covered more of the two bands’ songs.

Dragon (That’s What You Wanted) – Alyson Stoner

Okay, how can you not love a song like this?  The feel is definitely early 2000s for both the song and video.  It’s catchy and again, the dancing in the video is great!  I hate that I didn’t know this song existed until this month.

Runaway – Love and Theft

Another catchy song that I find in my head from time to time.  It’s been a while since I actually listened to it, until this summer.  I can’t believe I forgot this song was even in my iTunes library.

Wrecking Ball – Glee Cast (Cover)

I know a good song when I hear it, even if I’m not a fan of the artist.  Thankfully this song was covered on Glee so I could buy it without hating myself and I love this version.  The song came back into my regular playlist because of a video I saw on Facebook that was hilarious.  And it just made me think of how things in life can come crashing in without any notice that can leave a mark on our lives, whether it’s good or bad.

Sugar Rush – A*Teens

I realize this song is a cover, but I don’t know by who… and the only reason I know it’s a cover is because my mom told me back in the early 2000s it was.  I just think it’s a cute song and I love this version as well as Dream Street’s (which you can listen to here).

Pop – *Nsync

Since it’s been 15 years since their last album came out, I’ve been on a little *Nsync kick again.  This song is the standout at the moment because it’s one of the ones I can remember most from the concert I went to in 2002 (one of the best birthday presents ever).  It’s upbeat, catchy and how can you not want to dance along with it?

I Want You to Know – Cover by Max Schneider and Alyson Stoner

No offense to Zedd and Selena Gomez, but this version is my favorite.  I wasn’t sure how I’d like an acoustic version of the song because I was so used to the upbeat, dance version… but these two (along with Kurt, of course) completely dominated this song.

Maps – Maroon 5

I’ve known of this song for a while, but never really listened to it before.  Now that I have, I can’t get it out of my head.  It’s another catchy song that will pop up in my head at the most random times.  And, I have to throw this in there, but Kurt, Max and Alyson also did a great cover of this song that I have to say, I’m more partial to than the original – which you can see here.

 

So those are a few of the songs that are on repeat this month.  There are more, but a lot of them are from artists I’ve listed here and I wanted to give y’all some variety.

Are there any on this list you also like?

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Letter to My Best Friend

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Dear Best Friend,

You know who you are.

First off, I’m truly thankful that God placed us in that middle school Spanish class years ago because we definitely came into a great friendship that I think will last.  We don’t get to see each other as often as in high school, but that happens.  The important thing is that even if we go weeks without directly talking to each other, once we’re together it’s like no time passed.

We hit a lot of milestones together – sweet sixteens, first boyfriends, high school graduation, getting our driver’s licenses, college graduation.  Really that only thing we haven’t done was senior prom, and that’s because I didn’t go (and I still don’t regret it).  We still have many more milestones to cover (I’m still betting that you’ll have kids first) and I’m excited to see what God has in store for the both of us.

What I love about our friendship is that we don’t hold back.  We can be honest with each other and let all our thoughts and feelings out when we’re having a bad day, but not even five minutes later we can be completely weird and silly.  A friend like that is hard to come by… you usually get either one or the other.  We’re lucky to have both in the same person.

I also just need to thank you for being there for me during the times I’m having stupid drama in my life, and you don’t judge me.  You usually understand since often times you’re going through some of the same things, just in different ways.

Life is weird for us right now – we’re both college grads and still struggling to find full-time work in our fields of study.  The thing is, I know God has something great for both of us.  You have a great gift when it comes to working with children and I have no doubts that you’re going to be everyone’s favorite teacher once you get into the right school… the parents are going to love you too!

So don’t worry buddy… your time is coming.

Thanks again for being the best friend I could ever ask for!

Hate you buddy!

– Tabbers